Soul Mates

Have you ever known people who were self-proclaimed soul mates? Maybe you are one. I’ve never had the experience of that degree of connectedness with a person. I’ve heard about it, read about it, seen it in movies. To me, it always sounded like some kind of hearts and flowers, star-crossed lover-syndrome from the 60’s. I don’t doubt these people have this type of connection to one another, but then isn’t it also possible they’ve had permanent mental alterations from all the LSD they took in college?

Surely people are too technically advanced to be able to have relationships like that nowadays. Friendships have been relegated to how many of your friends’ Facebook posts you “Like”. Dating is best accomplished online as you eagerly await the next “Wink” and then send messages back and forth for weeks until you think can trust them enough to actually meet in person. We move like robots through life, working like crazy and then trying to get any downtime we can in order to meet that “one”. It’s all we can do to find a date, much less someone who actually wants to add the turmoil of a romantic relationship to their life.

But, I know me and while I have enjoyed being by myself, I’m not one to stay that way. I know what I want and what I deserve. And, in reference to the Universe listening, I feel wholeheartedly that I have found it. After a couple of false starts and several more first dates, the tides have turned in my favor.

From the very beginning, the communication between us has just flowed. We’ve put as much on the table as the table will currently hold. Then once all of that information gets filed away, we’ll add more to the table. Nothing is left out, nothing is off-limits. Nothing is judged and everything is accepted. And in throwing everything out there we’ve found that not only are we on the same page, but we are on the same sentence in the same paragraph on the same page.

I am baffled and amazed at this whole experience. Is this even possible? It seems so very incredible, in the literal sense. But, as I’ve always found, it’s pointless to question it. I may never know the answer. And, more precisely, I don’t need to know the answer.

Singing

I absolutely LOVE to sing. And I think I sound pretty good. In the car. Alone. With the windows rolled up. Preferably while it's pouring down rain so no one actually sees me.  I would never - and I mean NEVER - sing karaoke. In public? Oh, hell no!

 

The funny part, to me, is that I've performed musically a lot - through middle and high school in the different bands and even some solo. And now, in my career I occasionally run meetings and lead demos. So, it's not a "stage fright" issue. 

Well, maybe a little.

 

One of the popular sayings recently is "Dance like no one is watching". To me, this is a total no-brainer because I really don't care what other people think of me and what I'm doing. I'll go dancing (granted rarely) and I know I don't dance well but I'll be having fun. I don't get embarrassed or feel humiliated. I believe those feelings come from that same little voice in your head that tells you when you "can't" do or be something. You should never listen to that voice. I do and say whatever I feel is right. I have never thought it right to intentionally hurt someone's feelings, so barring that, all else is fair game! I don't have much in terms of ego - I'm an open book with nothing really to hide and if I get hurt along the way, I'll know there's a lesson in the experience. I have enough self-confidence to say that I am who I am and if you don't like me, that's ok. I can't change that and I'm ok with it.

 

I have to assume, simply because of the popularity of the saying, that there are people who wouldn't dance like no one is watching. To them I say, "Who cares?" People seem to think that everyone else is watching, and cares about, what they're doing. They don't. They only care about what they themselves are doing and that other people don't think adversely of them. It's a vicious circle. So when I see someone doing something goofy in public, I'll laugh and acknowledge them as encouragement. Being uptight and worrying about everything only leads to health issues and unhappiness. Be content with who you are. Show the world. Free yourself.

 

Now, let me at that karaoke machine!

 

hmmm...

 

I think I'll start with dancing in the street. I'll need to work my way up to singing...